I can't help but giggle at the above picture..and though It is kind of mean and I probably shouldn't have posted it, maybe others (especially all of you fellow wives out there) can gain a small chuckle from it as well. Let's call that STRESS relief! A little giggle therapy never hurt anyone. :)
Alright..So..
I really do enjoy my husbands parents. They are nice individuals. I thank them for everything that they do to help. I've had some frustrations building up lately and I really have kept my cool and not spoken up, but I fear I am getting to the point where I am going to be unable to keep my chops shut much longer. Where to begin...
A couple of weeks ago, they took Jace for a couple nights. One of the (two) days that he was with them, I sat down and logged onto Facebook to check my notifications. While scrolling down my feed, I saw two pictures of him posted by his biological mother. Now..let me throw in a few facts..
1. His biological mother does not visit or speak to him.
2. He hasn't seen her in a few years (even though she lives right in town)
3. I added her on Facebook as a means of communication so that she
could see pictures of him, or contact me if she wanted to work something
out and see him. She's never made an attempt.
Aside from the above mentioned, his parent's never asked us about taking him to her employer. They took it upon themselves to take him there to see her. I wanted to blow a gasket over the ordeal. They are the grandparents...they are NOT the parents. Not only was it not in their place to do that, but they didn't even ASK beforehand.
Second issue...Favoring one child over the others.
I am fully aware that Keisha and Trey are not their blood grandchildren..In MY eyes, that shouldn't matter at all. ALL of the children deserve to be treated and accepted equally by all parties. My family treats Jace no differently than Keisha and Trey..and if they DID, I would throw a stink about it, just as I am about to do with the In-laws.
When all of the kids are here, they usually take them overnight on Friday nights. They normally bring them home Sat. mornings around noon. Ever since the two left town to visit their dad, they have kept Jace two nights every week..they NEVER do that when Keisha and Trey are here also. They also took him and bought him two new pairs of shoes (he also had a brand new pair we purchased him at home) and then told him that if he tied them, they'd purchase him another new pair in two weeks. I heard my husband make a comment that Trey needed a new pair or shoes, but it went unheard. Today, they dropped Jace off at home and had purchased him new socks, and shirts. Nothing for Trey.
I told his mother that we are taking Jayden for pictures on Tuesday. She asked if we were going to get any of him and Jace. I said no. I will get pictures of all four children together once they return. She proceeded to ask me again if I was going to get pictures of Jayden and Jace.
This isn't the first time that there has been some sort of incident or something said that shows that they treat the kids differently, and I am growing tired of it. If they can't treat all of the children equally, then the children don't need to go over there. They would feel as though they are being punished, but my concern is the kids, not anyone else. It is unfair to the children and it breaks my heart.
When we combined our family. it was an adjustment for ALL of the kids. Jace accepted a new brother and sister, and Keisha and Trey were put into a completely new enviroment away from their grandparents and what they were used to. They also accepted a new brother into the mix as well.
Another issue..
When they came over here yesterday, my husbands dad went upstairs and put the window unit in. I asked my husband about it and he hadn't said a word or asked for it to be put in there, nor did I. WE are the parents..we are also the ones that pay the electric bill. It was not right for them to just do things without asking or being asked first.
I am just annoyed..and trying to hard to let it all go, but I feel as though it's not going to be that easy..it's simple really....
BE a grandparent, not a parent. Don't make decisions that aren't yours to make. Let US parent the children. Let US make decisions for the children and let US determine what is best for the kids and what isn't.
*Screams in my pillow*
*Steps off my soap box*
